Dear tbone33,

The only way to know for sure if the guy is gay or bisexual would be to ask him. But keep in mind that by asking him, or by expressing your interest in him, you may be "outing" yourself at school, because he may tell other people that you're bisexual. It's important to consider whether you would be safe coming out at school.

If you decide to approach him, and you're not both out — or you're around people who are homophobic — it's a good idea to wait to do it when no one else is around.

You also might want to think about what would happen if your parents found out that you were bisexual. You might want to check out the website Outproud.org, which has information, resources, and support for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender teens who are coming out or thinking of coming out.

Aside from the issue of figuring out this guy's sexual orientation, keep in mind that anyone — gay, bisexual, or straight — who asks someone out runs the risk of being rejected. It's up to you to decide if you're willing to take that risk.

Good luck!

Hope this information helps!

Take care,

teenwire.com^® Editors

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