Dear kittypoo,

That's a good question. There are lots of reasons why people might enjoy stimulating someone with their hands or giving oral sex. Often they expect reciprocation, either at the same time or by taking turns. And often sex play is just as much about the pleasure of giving as it is the pleasure of getting.

However, no one should feel pressured into or have to do something sexually that they don't like doing — or doing something that is not reciprocated. Sex partners should be attentive to each other's pleasure and respect each other's sexual limits. It's also important to be clear with each other about what you want to do and don't want to do sexually. It may be hard to talk about what you like or don't like, but communication is the key to enjoyable sex play and to healthy relationships.

Hope this information helps!

Take care,

teenwire.com^® Editors

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