Dear cleo77,

There are many reasons this might happen. Many young men experience some difficulty in achieving and/or maintaining an erection. Often it is a result of nerves or anxiety. Sometimes it's concern about performance. Sometimes it's concern about whether or not having intercourse is the right decision. Many guys find that being prepared for sexual intercourse — by dealing with their doubts and feelings and having protection on hand — helps them perform and enjoy it a lot more.

It's also important to remember that a man's erection is likely to alternate between harder and softer during sexual arousal and intercourse. Therefore, a man's penis may not always be completely erect during sexual intercourse, and that's normal! Many people find it helpful to use different ways of arousing their partner, such as kissing, massaging, and/or manual or oral stimulation before trying to engage in sexual intercourse. Just as with any kind of sex play, everybody is different — with various likes and dislikes, so communication is the key.

Hope this information helps!

Take care,

teenwire.com^® Editors

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