Dear BABYLUVSM,

It is quite common for women to have a harder time reaching orgasm with a partner than while masturbating alone. There are lots of possible reasons for this.

Many women have difficulty reaching orgasm. In fact, one of every three women have some difficulty reaching orgasm. Most women experience orgasm through clitoral stimulation rather than through vaginal penetration. Therefore, if a woman is having difficulty reaching orgasm she may want to try clitoral stimulation during, before or after other kinds of sex play. It may be helpful to show your partner what works for you.

Also, sometimes women (and men, too) have a hard time reaching orgasm with a partner when they are anxious or distracted, perhaps because of the pressure they feel to perform, perhaps because of the possibility of pregnancy or sexually transmitted infections. If you have these concerns, or others, make sure to talk about them with your partner. If you find it difficult to talk with your boyfriend about your thoughts on sex, you might not be ready for sex.

Remember, communication is the key to enjoyable sex. Partners are not mind readers. People need helpful hints and clues about how to please each other best.

Hope this information helps!

Take care,

teenwire.com^® Editors

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