Dear Lexy91,

No one should ever do something sexually that they are not comfortable doing, and no one should ever feel pressured into engaging in any kind of sex act. Partners in healthy relationships respect each other's wishes. No one should manipulate another person into having sex.

Having sex is a big decision. It involves many feelings and responsibilities. There is a lot to consider. How will having sex make you feel about yourself or your boyfriend? Will your relationship change — will it be better or worse? Are you ready to protect yourself against pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections?

One of the most important things you can do is let your boyfriend know how you feel. Be clear with him and explain how you feel about sex and why you're not ready. Be honest and firm. You can say "I've made up my mind to wait" or "I really love you, but I'm not ready to have sex." These things may be hard to say — you can tell him that, too. It may help to practice saying these sentences to yourself, to prepare you for talking with your boyfriend.

Sex is not the only way people let each other know they care. People demonstrate love by being there for each other, solving problems together, sharing hard times as well as good times, helping each other grow, and being patient with each other.

Hope this information helps!

Take care,

teenwire.com^® Editors

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