Dear wantingA4Q,

Some people enjoy giving oral sex whether or not they are being stimulated at the same time. Some people can only enjoy giving oral sex while they are being stimulated at the same time. And some people do not enjoy providing or receiving oral sex at all.

No one should ever do something sexually that they are not comfortable doing, and no one should ever feel pressured into engaging in any kind of sex act. A conversation with your boyfriend could help you bring up specific concerns that the two of you might want to work on.

It is important for partners to talk about their feelings. It's also important to be clear when you explain why you're uncomfortable performing oral sex. These things may be hard to say and you can tell him that, too. It may help to practice saying what you want to say, to prepare for talking with your boyfriend.

Remember, unprotected oral sex (without using a condom or other barrier) puts both partners at risk for a number of sexually transmitted infections, whether they are giving or receiving genital stimulation. These infections include gonorrhea, syphilis, chancroid, herpes, hepatitis B, cytomegalovirus, human papilloma virus (HPV), herpes, and, rarely, HIV and chlamydia. For safer oral sex, use a condom to cover the penis, or a Glyde dam or plastic wrap to cover the vulva or anus.

Hope this information helps!

Take care,

teenwire.com^® Editors

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