Dear dazedwoman,

There is nothing wrong with you.

Having crushes on both guys and girls is perfectly normal. Some people are attracted to both guys and girls. And these feelings are natural. People who are often attracted to people of both genders sometimes call themselves bisexual. Sometimes a same-sex attraction is just a one-time thing — and that's normal, too.

Sexual orientation — being lesbian, gay, bisexual, or straight — is about sexual attraction. It can take years to understand our sexual orientation. Each of us has to answer these questions for ourselves, but it may take time before we can answer.

So many people, young and old, have questions about their sexual orientation that there is actually a name for them. Many identify themselves and are identified by others as "questioning." It's completely OK to be wondering about your sexuality. And there are some resources that may help you sort through some of your feelings.

The definition of sexual monogamy is simple. It means having sex with only one partner who is having sex with no one else. Not everyone uses this definition when they talk about monogamy. Discussing monogamy with your partner is really important so that you're both on the same page, share the same definitions, and can understand what to expect.

When we're in sexual relationships, we need to share with our partner(s) what monogamy means to us. How would your boyfriend feel if you had sex with your neighbor? How would you feel if your boyfriend had sex with someone else — girl or guy?

For more information, check out www.outproud.org.

Hope this information helps!

Take care,

teenwire.com^® Editors

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