Dear hotgirl02,

Most teens want to be able to talk to their parents about important issues. But it can feel like a hard thing to do. You may want to think about what specifically makes you cry when talking to your parents. Do they yell or overreact? Do you feel like you're not being heard? Do they treat you like a child instead of a person who is becoming an adult? It would be helpful if you can let them know the reasons why you get upset.

To begin these discussions, it may be helpful to talk to one parent at a time. Or you can try to communicate with them in other ways, such as writing them a letter. If you decide to speak with them, find a time when no one is distracted — ask them when a good time to talk is.

And try not to jump to conclusions. Most parents want to help their children with difficult problems. If you expect a parent to respond with a lecture and not really hear you out, you might actually get what you expect. Although it may be a little scary to think about, it is often true that the way we approach a situation has a lot to do with what happens. For example, if we approach a situation with negative expectations, we may do things to make a negative outcome more likely. On the other hand, if you can try to be open and honest, then your parents might also respond openly and honestly.

Hope this information helps!

Take care,

teenwire.com^® Editors

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