Dear Beverlee,

It's great that you feel comfortable enough with your mom to want to talk with her about this decision. Some teens find it really intimidating or embarrassing to talk to their parents about sex. But many parents can give their kids better information, advice, and support than they could get anywhere else. Of course it's true that some parents don't even want to "go there" with their kids.

First, think about how your mom may react. If you think she might freak out, you may want to wait to have this discussion until you are both ready for it. In this case, you could turn to another trusted adult. Talking to another adult whom you trust can give you the opportunity to rehearse what you want to say to your mom.

If you've thought about her reaction, you can give your mom a heads-up by scheduling your talk in advance. Just say something like, "Can we have a private talk tonight?" This will let your mom know that something is on your mind.

If you're nervous, it's okay to say so! Break the ice with something like, "This feels weird for me to talk about and it may be for you, too, but I want to tell you..."

If you don't know where to start, use a book or a magazine as a jumping-off point. And say something like, "I read about someone who had sex when she was 15 years old" — or "I have a friend who just had sex for the first time." You can also try to talk to your parents about their sexual experiences and ask, "What was it like when you had sex for the first time?" Or, "Did you tell your parents about it?"

However you decide to begin talking to a parent — or another trusted adult — about sex, remember that you're probably not the only one who is nervous. Many people feel awkward talking about sex. Sometimes it's hard because we may not know how to begin. It's good to know that most parents say they are happy that their kids started this conversation. Good luck.

Hope this information helps!

Take care,

teenwire.com^® Editors

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