Dear blue101,

Some teens find it really intimidating or embarrassing to talk to their parents about sex. But many parents can give their kids better information, advice, and support than they could get anywhere else. Of course it's true that some parents don't even want to go there with their kids.

First, think about how your parents will react. If you think they're really going to freak out, you may want to wait to have this discussion until you are all ready for it. In this case you may want to turn to another trusted adult. Talking to another adult whom you trust can give you the opportunity to rehearse what you want to say to your parental unit.

You can give your parents a heads-up by scheduling your talk in advance. Just say something like, "Can we have a private talk tonight?" This will let your mom or dad know that something is on your mind.

If you're nervous, it's okay to say so! Break the ice with something like, "This feels weird for me to talk about and it may be for you too, but I want to tell you..."

If you don't know where to start, you could use a book or a magazine as a jump off point. You could say something like, "I read about someone who had sex when she was 15 years old" — in order to begin your discussion. Maybe you can begin with something not so personal — "I have a friend who had sex for the first time." You can also try to talk to your parents about their sexual experiences and ask, "What was it like when you had sex for the first time? Did you tell your parents about it?"

However you decide to begin talking to your parents — or another trusted adult — about sex, remember that they are probably nervous, too. Many people feel awkward talking about sex. Sometimes it's hard because we may not know how to begin. It's good to know that many parents say they are happy that their kids started this conversation. Good luck.

Hope this information helps!

Take care,

teenwire.com^® Editors

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