Dear poppy17,

Masturbation is totally normal for people of all ages whether they are in a relationship or not. Masturbation is a great way to learn and practice pleasing yourself. Generally, people who masturbate tend to function better sexually with others, because masturbation is practice for fulfilling sexual expression.

Some people in relationships get upset that their partner masturbates because they view it as cheating or feel they are not satisfying their partner. They also may feel guilty about masturbating while they are in relationships. Masturbating is not cheating, nor is it something to feel guilty about.

It's important to let partners know that we care about them and that if we masturbate it does not mean that they are not satisfying to us. This also may help free them of the guilt they may have about masturbating while in a relationship. Talking about each other's feelings can help both partners understand where the other one is coming from. They may even choose to masturbate together. Whatever they choose to do, open communication about masturbation may help them get to know a lot about each other.

Hope this information helps!

Take care,

teenwire.com^® Editors

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