Dear kornfreak9,

There's no one right answer to this question. Sexual orientation — being lesbian, bisexual, gay, or straight, is about sexual attraction. It can take years to understand our sexual orientation. Each of us have to answer these questions for ourselves, but it may take time before we can answer.

So many people, young and older, have questions about their sexual orientation that there is actually a name for them. Many identify themselves and are identified by others as "questioning."

Having crushes on both guys and girls is perfectly normal. Many people are attracted to both guys and girls. And these feelings are natural. People who are attracted to people of both genders sometimes call themselves bisexual. No one knows for sure what makes men and women lesbian or gay, bisexual or heterosexual. Sexual orientation develops naturally — perhaps even before birth. Although sexual orientation may seem to shift for some people in the course of a lifetime, it is not something that people can decide for themselves or others. So, it's completely ok to be wondering about your sexuality.

Hope this information helps!

Take care,

teenwire.com^® Editors

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